Choose the right

Bifurkasi, kalau dilihat di kamus Alfalink sih artinya cabang dua. Kata-kata ini pertama masuk ke dalam kosakata saya sejak membaca novel karya Dee, Supernova. Waktu itu kalo tidak salah persepsi,di novel itu digambarkan ada bifurkasi dari dua action yang harus kita pilih sehingga pada ujung kedua pilihan tersebut terdapat dua takdir yang berbeda. Kita memang tidak akan pernah tahu takdir apa yang terjadi pada ujung pilihan tersebut. Mungkin inilah yang disebut The Power of Choose – Kekuatan untuk Memilih.

Sepertinya ini ada kaitannya dengan ilmu psikologi atau mungkin manajemen, tetapi saya mencoba melihat dari kacamata orang awam seperti saya. Bifurkasi itu selalu ada dan terjadi dalam hidup kita yaitu pada saat kita di hadapkan untuk memilih dari dua atau lebih pilihan yang ada di depan kita. Pertimbangan untuk memilih pun berdasarkan dari pengalaman hidup untuk masing-masing individu. Sehingga pilihan untuk hal yang sama pun bisa berbeda. Hal ini tergantung dari prioritas, kepentingan, kebutuhan, dan faktor lain yang mempengaruhi pertimbangan tersebut. Kita memang tidak akan pernah tahu apa yang akan terjadi pada ujung pilihan, tetapi setidaknya apabila kita mempunyai pertimbangan dan kemampuan untuk memprediksi dan melihat jauh ke depan mungkin akan sangat membantu agar yang kita pilih benar-benar sesuai dengan apa yang kita inginkan.

Dari browsing di internet ada artikel bagus dari seorang trauma therapist, John C. Flanagan, tentang The Power of Choosing . Kutipannya adalah sebagai berikut :

“I would be serenely happy. I would go where I want to go and I would do what I want to do without agonizing about what I should do. I would choose and not look back. And if I discovered that I didn’t like that choice, I would choose again and keep moving forward. I would as a result have what I want. Because by choosing and by doing, I would keep discovering more and more about what I want. Instead of being repeatedly stopped, I would be mobilized, dynamic, on the go, moving forward constantly. I would know what I want and have what I want in every aspect of my life. I would do a lot of what I like to do. I would try new things. And if I discovered that I really liked those things, I would do more of those things. And if I discovered that I didn’t like those things, I would not do them any more. I would know what I want because I would test my choices through action rather than remaining confused through inaction. Things would get done. More things than I get done now. Because I would be in constant forward motion gaining momentum and discovering clarity as I move. Things that I currently imagine I will never accomplish, even though I want to do them, would get accomplished. And I would have everything I want and nothing that I don’t want. I would be in abundance knowing that everything that I want is at hand and that all I have to do is to choose. I would be relaxed knowing that if I discovered something I didn’t want I could make a different choice. I would be moving forward and gaining insight and clarity, wisdom and peace, connection and ecstasy. I would travel all over the world and see the places I want to see and the people I want to see and do the things I want to do. I would complete all the tasks on my life list and develop a whole bunch more things that I want to do before I die. I would develop and expand and mature even more as a professional and as a person. I would reach more and more people, be more successful at helping them and make an impact on their well-being that would be felt for generations to come.”

I wrote this because I am in such condition that I have to choose. This needs a lot of consideration and I agree with article above that we have to act and never look back, of course without blind decision. What would you do if you experience this situation? What is your priority to make a choose?

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